"Y2. Day 178. This onesie showed up in my Facebook feed today as a sponsored ad. Even attempting to entice me with a 10% off coupon. My heart broke a little that this is even printed on an outfit for an infant. A little baby who just wants you to love them and feed them and change them and give them comfort. An innocent little piece of perfection. I often get crap from people who don't understand. They don't get why I don't drink. Or suggest 'just one' - 'one will be okay' - 'in case you want just one' - no thank you. I will gladly turn down that 'just one [ahem, twelve]' for my son. My beautiful, handsome, most precious son. I won't be that mom who 'is more fun' due to a drink. I'll be more fun because I'm present. I'll be more fun because I won't be hungover and moody. I'll be more fun because I'll be sober and not focused on my next drink. And I'll be so.fucking.grateful that I will never be that mom that would EVER have this onesie on her child. He deserves better. He deserves every single ounce of me that I can give him. He doesn't deserve being 2nd place to a glass of wine. And God willing, one day at a time, he never will!'"
Toby and Roo: If You Can Read This Please Bring Mummy Wine
We don’t want to shame women who share images like this, but at the same time, believe it’s important to have discussions around these kinds of images and messages. What are we teaching our kids? What are we saying to each other? I can only speak for myself and back when I thought it was funny for my son to bring me my wine glass. I did look to the echo chamber of alcohol-as-lifestyle narrative to reinforce my behavior. Now my son and I talk about the realities of what wine is, and why I don’t consume it. One’s relationship with alcohol is a personal thing. However, we believe it’s important to be thoughtful about our messaging — to kids, on social media, to each other. #tellbetterstories#alcohol #Repost@tobyandroo ・・・ "Half term project: 'From grape to glass.'Educational surely?. 🍷😝 #BringMummyWine#TeachingEmEarly#Mumsofig#mumsofinsta#mom_togs"
Wine Is The Epidural of Motherhood
“Epidural administration is a medical route of administration in which a drug or contrast agent is injected into the epidural space of the spinal cord.” Like many of you I’ve had one to give birth. It helped me with major abdominal surgery. Parenting, though, is another story. It actually doesn’t require numbing. We just tell each other it does. It can be hard as hell though — this is true. By there are other ways to deal than with the drip, drip drip. As a reminder, this is not about judging women who drink. It’s about this construct that wine is an accessory to motherhood and the messages we share again and again. That it’s necessary. It’s not on either account. Some good writers to read on this topic
Reader submission. We took out the source because it’s not a publication or brand. So much of this work involves looking under the surface of these memes, etc. They’re an attempt at humor or connection. A shortcut. We get that. (We used to make these jokes too.) But when you stop and really think about it, the bigger question is, “Why?” When I used to make jokes like this, there was a reason under the surface. It had to deal with feeling isolated and not living my purpose and being in physical and emotional pain and being all the things the world told me to be that didn’t feel right. Then I learned there were people who not only made jokes about drinking at 9 am; they too drank in the morning. They too knew pain. Next I learned there was an alternative to living like that. There was a way to build a life you wouldn’t want to escape from. 👌 It’s a good way to be. #tellbetterstories#alcohol#meme#lifestyle
This was shared by a reader; an image posted by a nutrition coach for #MothersDay. We took out the identifying info because it’s not necessary. These are the cards we are giving to each other today. These are the cards partners are picking out for moms. Friends for friends. These are the messages we send. Well, not us (though we used to)... • • What if instead of continuing he same old narrative, we break it? What if we talk about motherhood being more than a relay race between coffee and wine? What if we gather in circles and tell the truth? • • That is what is happening. Women gathering all over the US, in real life and digitally, saying: “This is my experience. What is yours?” Today we’re not going to give you statistics about women and alcohol, we’re just going to say: we’re more than a relay race of substances. We are powerful, vulnerable, resourceful, challenged, resilient and real creators. All moms are. Happy #MothersDay to all moms: the original storytellers, the teachers, the creators. Together we will #tellbetterstories. #alcohol#marketing#moms#momlife